â€śEating is not a crime. Itâ€™s not a moral issue. Itâ€™s normal. Itâ€™s enjoyable. It just is.â€ť ~Carrie Arnold
Like many women, I was introduced to diet â€śtricksâ€ť and â€śhacksâ€ť at a young age. In my case, that was around twelve to thirteen years old.
I consumed magazines and movies that constantly reminded me about the importance of dieting, losing weight, and looking skinny.
As a self-conscious teenager, I began to compare myself to the women in music videos with flat bellies, the slim actresses in movies, and models in magazines with their perfect â€śbeach bodies.â€ť
This self-consciousness only grew louder as I witnessed girls in my classroom getting teased forÂ being â€śtoo fatâ€ť and â€śugly.â€ť
Thinking there was only one type of â€śperfect bodyâ€ť made me feel I didnâ€™t measure up.
How I Broke My Relationship with Food
The feeling of not being good enough made me pay attention to the diet tricks I was promised on magazine covers.
This is when my relationship with food changed.
Food stopped being an experience to enjoy, and it became a way to create the body I thought I wanted.
To be completely honest, my experience wasnâ€™t as traumatic as what other women have suffered. I never vomited. I never stopped eating for days. Although I was happy whenever I came down with a stomach virus because my stomach looked completely flat afterward.
I started experimenting with green juicesâ€”the wrong way. I would drink a spinach and cucumber juice (hating the taste) and immediately give myself permission to binge on pizza and other foods because I had â€śenduredâ€ť the juicing.
I began counting calories on a blackboard, like if I was doing math at school.
For a period of time, I decided to eat only liquid and very soft foods, in tiny portions.
After several months of my â€śexperiments,â€ť my father started commenting that the bones in my wrists became more noticeable, and my mom insisted I looked too thin, but there was not such thing at â€śtoo thinâ€ť in the mind of my teenage self.
One time that I came down with another stomach virus, the doctor told me I was underweight, and she gave me a prescription for a supplement to gain weight.
I was horrified at the idea of putting on weight. I refused, much to my motherâ€™s concern.
The irony was that even though I was restricting my food on a daily basis, I had no problem with binging on cake and ice cream while watching TV in my room. I thought if I ate very little most of the time, these foods were my prizes.
Eating turned into a bittersweet experience. When I was in â€śdiet mode,â€ť I ate too little, with worry, and calculated the effect of everything I ate on my weight. When I was on â€śbinge mode,â€ť I ate without restrictions, with guilt in the back of my mind, feeling upset that I would have to go back to â€śdietâ€ť soon.
When My Body Said â€śEnoughâ€ť
Because of my inconsistent and emaciating eating habits, I had digestive problems most of my teenage years.
My turning point happened when I developed serious digestive issues during holiday.
For almost two weeks I couldnâ€™t digest my food properly, I was bloated, and I had constant stomach pain.
Because we were away on holiday in my grandparentsâ€™ house in the countryside in Costa Rica, there were no clinics or doctors around.
My grandfather made me tea with ginger and digestive herbs from his garden to alleviate my pain.
To my surprise, that same day my stomach problems diminished, and after two days I felt in perfect shape.
I was baffled that drinking tea helped me get better when medications that Iâ€™d taken for years couldnâ€™t fix my stomach problems.
This is the moment when I realized food could heal my body.
I began researching and learning about what food could do for me from the inside out. Quickly, I realized the damage I had been doing to my body by eating the way I was.
I decided to start eating whole foods, mostly plant-based meals, almost right away.
I wanted to heal my body and in the process IÂ healed my relationship with food.
In my mind, food became what it should have been all along: nourishment and pleasure.
Fast forward to today, Iâ€™ve learned how to eat intuitively, how to eat with mindfulness and joy, and how to approach my body from a place of acceptance and love.
Our Thoughts About Food Matter
Looking back, I realize how damaging my thoughts about food were.
Seeing food as my enemy made me eat in a way that damaged my bodyâ€”too little, too much, and never with absolute pleasure. This happens to so many people in our diet-crazed society.
In this post, I want to help you identify and transform thoughts that are harming your relationship with food and holding you back from eating with joy.
The way you eat is a reflection of your thoughts and perceptions.
If you have been struggling with dieting, obsessing over calories, and restricting your meals, I want to help you take a step back and shift your mindset so you can heal your relationship with food.
Letting go of these six toxic thoughts about food will help you eat mindfully, and with pleasure.
1. Thinking of food as a reward.
Rewarding a healthy diet with unhealthy food, like during cheat days, defeats the purpose of eating with joy.
Having cheat days can make your daily meals seem less enjoyable in comparison, which diminishes your pleasure.
Also, cheat days often turn into binge eating episodes that leave you feeling physically and mentally upset. This doesnâ€™t contribute to your health or happiness.
A more mindful approach is to allow yourself to indulge on not-so-healthy foods occasionally in moderate portions, instead of reserving certain moments or days to pig out on junk food. Donâ€™t see these indulgences as â€śrewardsâ€ť or â€śprizesâ€ť reserved for certain occasions.
At the same time, eat healthy food that makes you happy on a daily basis. Donâ€™t limit your meals to bland or boring food. Expand your daily menu so youâ€™re always eating healthy meals you like.
2. Using food as a punishment.
Using food to punish yourself is just as damaging as using it to reward yourself.
Eating less or not eating to â€śpunishâ€ť yourself for overeating is only going to reinforce the feeling you have been â€śbad,â€ť and this will make you more anxious and paranoid around food.
For example, forcing yourself to eat only certain foodsâ€”green juices, â€śdetoxâ€ť teas, saladsâ€”that you dislike to compensate for binging episodes or because you feel â€śfatâ€ť will deprive your body of the nutrients you need and make you miserable.
You donâ€™t need to deprive your body; torturing yourself is not the answer.
The best thing you can do to stop this cycle is to practice self-love. Love yourself, love your body, and know you donâ€™t need to punish it.
A healthy diet that keeps you fit is abundant in whole, nourishing foods. If you want to start over, donâ€™t stop eating. EatÂ moreÂ healthy foods: berries, nuts, beans, lentils, quinoa, all the veggies you can imagine, plenty of water, whole grains, soups, and more.
3.Â Thinking of food as comfort.
Emotional eatingÂ happens when we see food as a form of consolation.
I ate cake many times a week because I thought it made me â€śhappy.â€ť I was a lonely teenager, and cake made me feel life was a little sweeter for a moment.
Using food to cope when we feel sad, angry, lonely, or hurt can be addictive. We start to associate â€śhappinessâ€ť with food, and the longer we do it, the harder it is to break the habit.
Relying on food to feel better shuts down the opportunity to work on your problems in a meaningful way.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to actively seek healthier ways to cope when things seem badâ€”and there are plenty of them.
Exercising, meditating, listening to music, reading, taking a walk, playing with a kitten or a dog, brainstorming solutions to your problems, learning a new skill, taking a nap, and talking to friends are more effective and healthier ways to lift up your mood.
4. Seeing food as something â€śprohibited.â€ť
Having a strict and inflexible diet will stress you and it may not even help you eat less,Â according to studies.
Food restrictions often result in constant thoughts and cravings about the food you are â€śforbiddingâ€ťâ€”donuts, brownies, ice cream, or sugar- and this keeps you from fully enjoying the meals in your plate.
StudiesÂ show that restricted eaters have more thoughts about food that non-restricted eaters.
Obviously, this wonâ€™t let you feel at peace or happy with your food.
Iâ€™m not saying you should eat without limits and binge on whatever you want, Iâ€™m suggestion to focus your efforts elsewhere: Instead of frantically forbidding foods, focus on adding healthier foods to your diet.
Forbidding unhealthy food makes you stressed and is ineffective, but if you simply focus on eating more whole foods, your mind will be at peace and you will eat healthier without even noticing.
5.Â Seeing food as entertainment.
When you go to the movies, do you eat popcorn because youâ€™re truly hungry or just because thatâ€™s how itâ€™s done?
Itâ€™s probably the latter, right? In this context, popcorn is part of the entertaining experience.
However, if you start turning to food to keep you entertained every time youâ€™re bored, you will overeat and wonâ€™t savor your meals.
Eating mindfully means being aware of your food and enjoying the experience.
Using food as a distraction wonâ€™t let you enjoy your meals the same way.
Instead of using food as entertainment, find constructive ways to occupy your mind.
Activities that engage you, like playing a game, reading a novel, drawing, organizing or exercising are better for your mind and body.
6. Measuring your self-worth based on how much you eat.
Finally, donâ€™t give food the power to measure your self-worth.
Youâ€™re more than what or how much you eat.
Beating yourself up over what you eat is exactly what harms your relationship with food and steals your happiness.
If you feel you havenâ€™t been eating healthy, donâ€™t get angry with yourself. You can always make a change for the better and improve your diet whenever you decide.
Itâ€™s important you see food as your ally, not as the enemy.
Food is not meant to make you feel guilty, worried, or restrict you in any way.
It is there to nourish, support you, and make you feel your best.
If you want to heal your relationship with food, begin by transforming the harmful thoughts that keep you from fully enjoying your eating experience.
About The Author:
Brenda Godinez is the blogger and food nerd behindÂ Crave the Benefits. Her mission is to help you make healthy eating happen, regardless of your schedule, budget, or lifestyle. You can get her free video classÂ How To Eat Healthy On A Crazy Busy Schedule here.
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