Maintaining a relationship is not an easy task, especially if you have been with the same person for several years. Although many people find it difficult to make things more enjoyable and exciting, some of us know how to make it work. The people who know how to make it work share a few key traits.
They love and accept their partners for who they are:Â Yes, people can change, but not all that much. So if you are constantly trying to motivate your spouse to do something small that they don’t want to do, like exercise more, or quit smoking, or be more assertive about their needs at work, that’s awesome, because that’s the kind of work partners should do for each other. Supporting each other in what we want to do in life is a beautiful thing. But the wholesale changing someone who, say, likes to surf more than she likes to work into a career-focused individual, trying to make a city guy into a country-living fan, or convincing someone who doesn’t want kids that they should have them is dangerous, and you’re bound to be disappointed when â€” shocker â€” they continue to be themselves. You can help your partner change small things about who they are, but if you aren’t into a major aspect of someone’s personality, you shouldn’t try to create a life with them.Â