“The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we’re afraid.We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it. We fear that if we don’t have love we will be unhappy.”
~ Richard Bach
Most of us don’t like liars. In fact, we often feel offended, even angry, when another person lies to us. But the truth is, we lie to ourselves every day. We engage in negative self talk and thought patterns that inhibit our personal growth and limit our ability to live a full and grounded life. We deserve to live life fully, to experience all of the joy and mystery that life has to offer. The first step towards this way of being is awareness. If we can become aware of the ways in which we lie ourselves, we can begin to filter our thoughts in a productive way. Here I have listed 10 lies that we need to stop telling ourselves in order to push past our own limitations and begin to enjoy the totality of living for which we are destined.
1. My past will always haunt me.
Correction- you’re past can haunt you if you let it. But no, you’re not doomed to spend the rest of your life desperately seeking love from anyone who will show it to you because of a parent who never did. The very thing you’re doing at this moment – self-reflection, questioning old thought patterns – is a great step in the direction of change. Next time, before you indulge a groundless belief or fear, ask yourself, “What is the source of my information?” If the answer is- as it usually is- “I thought it up,” then you should dismiss the idea. Remember, when you hold onto your history, you do so at the expense of your destiny.
2. Success is the opposite of failure.
There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you expected, don’t give up. Learn what you can and keep moving.
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About the Author
This article was written by Whitney Anthony. Whitney, who loves singing, writing, and performing is the author of the Vehicle of Wisdom blog. Although she has graduated from school, Whitney considers herself a life long student. She believes that as we learn, we teach – at our best we are all teachers. To learn more about Whitney visit her website www.