{"id":6377,"date":"2023-06-06T07:24:52","date_gmt":"2023-06-06T14:24:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/?p=6377"},"modified":"2023-08-29T12:21:22","modified_gmt":"2023-08-29T19:21:22","slug":"how-we-came-into-this-world-is-how-we-do-everything-in-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/how-we-came-into-this-world-is-how-we-do-everything-in-life\/","title":{"rendered":"<strong>How we came into this world is how we do everything in life.\u00a0<\/strong>"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How we come into the world matters.&nbsp;&nbsp;How we are born into this world shapes our future reality. It sets up the foundational blueprint for how we engage with life.&nbsp;&nbsp;Our early beginnings influences everything we do, our attachment patterns with others, our relationship with money, how we treat ourselves and respond to the world around us.&nbsp; &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m not just talking about physical birth here either \u2026. I also mean how our soul comes into incarnate in this lifetime and our passage through our early primal experience and how that enforces certain imprints on us.&nbsp;&nbsp;We also carry with us inherited genealogical imprints from our ancestors and past lives.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;How we come into the world is more influenced by the stories we make up or decide about what happened than by what actually happened.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Imprints are the thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, ideas and stories we made up about ourselves, about life and the world.&nbsp;They are the stories that get passed on through our genealogical DNA and into the cellular memory of our bodies.&nbsp;&nbsp;There are both positive imprints and there are adverse imprints.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many of us are walking around with infant parts of us that are fractured off, disconnected from us, trying to control our behavior and get its needs met in the best ways it knows how.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We all have primal core emotional needs for secure attachment.&nbsp;&nbsp;If they were not met, we feel a longing to try and meet them\u2026 often in adverse (infantile) ways.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most of us have areas in our early beginnings where our core emotional needs were not met and we developed compensatory patterns in order to survive, protect or control.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This might look like fighting to get what we need, grasping, clinging or taking whatever we can get.&nbsp;&nbsp;In the toddler when separated from his mother, he will run to the door and cry and protest and when she returns will cling very tightly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might decide that your needs just don\u2019t matter at all, that you can\u2019t trust anyone, you have to go it alone and end up collapsing, freezing or shutting down.&nbsp;&nbsp;This is often the result of neglect.&nbsp;&nbsp;In the toddler who is separated from his mother he won\u2019t seem to care much about her leaving or returning.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or maybe you take the sneaky backdoor &#8211; passive-aggressive approach to getting your needs met.&nbsp;&nbsp;You don\u2019t directly say what they are but play nice to get along and then hope that what you have given to others will magically come back to you.&nbsp; You have difficulty trusting. This can be very confusing and is often the result of abuse. You long for love and distrust it at the same time.&nbsp;&nbsp;In toddlers when separated from her mother she will&nbsp;be unaffected by her mother leaving but more upset with the stranger leaving and when she returns will want to be consoled while resisting being consoled and more easily consoled by the stranger. .&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perhaps you can relate to one of the 3 attachment styles.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mine has been the latter, building safety and trust and learning to become open has been part of my life journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We&nbsp;find&nbsp;ways&nbsp;not&nbsp;to&nbsp;get&nbsp;too&nbsp;close&nbsp;and&nbsp;control&nbsp;intimacy.&nbsp;&nbsp;We&nbsp;try&nbsp;to&nbsp;force&nbsp;others&nbsp;to&nbsp;love&nbsp;us. We struggle to be open and vulnerable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How we come into this world is how we do everything.&nbsp;&nbsp;Everything we do is a reflection of our incarnation and birth story.&nbsp;How we form intentions, how we prepare, how we execute and take action, follow through and integrate.&nbsp; Where we had hiccups in the early journey, we have hiccups in our earthly journey.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We&nbsp;all&nbsp;have&nbsp;imprints&nbsp;that&nbsp;are&nbsp;defensive&nbsp;automatic&nbsp;behaviors&nbsp;to&nbsp;protect&nbsp;ourselves&nbsp;from&nbsp;the&nbsp;original&nbsp;wound.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We&nbsp;develop&nbsp;these&nbsp;imprints&nbsp;to&nbsp;compensate&nbsp;for&nbsp;not&nbsp;getting&nbsp;our&nbsp;earliest&nbsp;needs&nbsp;met.&nbsp;&nbsp;These&nbsp;imprints&nbsp;keep&nbsp;us&nbsp;from&nbsp;intimate&nbsp;and&nbsp;satisfying&nbsp;relationships,&nbsp;fulfilling&nbsp;work&nbsp;and&nbsp;vibrant&nbsp;health&nbsp;and&nbsp;robs&nbsp;us&nbsp;of&nbsp;joy.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some&nbsp;of&nbsp;these&nbsp;are:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211;&nbsp;&nbsp;I&nbsp;am&nbsp;unworthy<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>I&nbsp;am&nbsp;not&nbsp;enough<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I&nbsp;am&nbsp;powerless<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I&nbsp;am&nbsp;alone<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I&nbsp;don\u2019t&nbsp;belong<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Love&nbsp;is&nbsp;painful<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Life&nbsp;is&nbsp;untrustworthy<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I&nbsp;am&nbsp;a&nbsp;disappointment<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I&nbsp;am&nbsp;shameful<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Life&nbsp;is&nbsp;suffering<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Nothing&nbsp;good&nbsp;lasts<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>They&nbsp;are&nbsp;reinforced&nbsp;throughout&nbsp;life,&nbsp;influencing&nbsp;how&nbsp;we&nbsp;keep&nbsp;on&nbsp;relating&nbsp;to&nbsp;each&nbsp;other&nbsp;for&nbsp;much&nbsp;of&nbsp;our&nbsp;lives,&nbsp;these&nbsp;issues&nbsp;come&nbsp;again&nbsp;and&nbsp;again\u2026..&nbsp;until&nbsp;they&nbsp;are&nbsp;re-patterned.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wounded&nbsp;people&nbsp;keep&nbsp;wounding&nbsp;others&nbsp;passing&nbsp;on&nbsp;the&nbsp;same&nbsp;patterns&nbsp;throughout&nbsp;generations<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While&nbsp;in&nbsp;the&nbsp;womb,&nbsp;how&nbsp;the&nbsp;baby&nbsp;feels&nbsp;about&nbsp;himself&nbsp;comes&nbsp;from&nbsp;his&nbsp;parents.&nbsp;It&nbsp;sends&nbsp;ripples&nbsp;through&nbsp;the&nbsp;baby\u2019s&nbsp;consciousness,&nbsp;it&nbsp;<strong>records<\/strong><strong>&amp;<\/strong><strong>senses<\/strong>&nbsp;their&nbsp;joy&nbsp;at&nbsp;his&nbsp;coming,&nbsp;or&nbsp;ambivalence&nbsp;or&nbsp;even&nbsp;hostility&nbsp;to&nbsp;his&nbsp;presence.&nbsp;&nbsp;An&nbsp;unborn&nbsp;baby&nbsp;does&nbsp;not&nbsp;have&nbsp;the&nbsp;capacity&nbsp;for&nbsp;boundary&nbsp;setting.&nbsp;The&nbsp;mother, environment&nbsp;and&nbsp;self&nbsp;are&nbsp;one.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u00a0baby\u00a0absorbs\u00a0his\u00a0parents\u00a0emotions,\u00a0feels\u00a0&amp;\u00a0becomes\u00a0identified\u00a0with\u00a0what\u00a0he\u00a0is\u00a0feeling\u00a0&amp;\u00a0about\u00a0him.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0In\u00a0his\u00a0innocence\u00a0and\u00a0permeable\u00a0state,\u00a0the\u00a0baby\u00a0takes\u00a0in\u00a0how\u00a0his\u00a0parents\u00a0feel\u00a0towards\u00a0him\u00a0as\u00a0the\u00a0very\u00a0<strong>nature <\/strong><strong>of <\/strong><strong>his <\/strong><strong>own <\/strong><strong>being<\/strong>\u00a0and\u00a0forms\u00a0his\u00a0deepest\u00a0attitudes\u00a0about\u00a0himself,\u00a0life\u00a0and\u00a0the\u00a0world\u00a0around\u00a0him.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most\u00a0primal <strong>emotional <\/strong><strong>competencies<\/strong>\u00a0are\u00a0learned\u00a0from\u00a0the\u00a0earliest\u00a0beginnings.\u00a0\u00a0The\u00a0way\u00a0our\u00a0passage\u00a0through\u00a0this\u00a0stage\u00a0of\u00a0life\u00a0stamps\u00a0these\u00a0imprints\u00a0upon\u00a0us.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How&nbsp;we&nbsp;come&nbsp;into&nbsp;this&nbsp;life,&nbsp;is&nbsp;the&nbsp;<strong>foundation<\/strong>&nbsp;for&nbsp;secure&nbsp;attachment,&nbsp;for&nbsp;healthy&nbsp;self-assertion&nbsp;and&nbsp;trust&nbsp;in&nbsp;one\u2019s&nbsp;own&nbsp;feelings,&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;The&nbsp;right&nbsp;conditions&nbsp;foster&nbsp;deep&nbsp;feelings&nbsp;of&nbsp;belonging&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;being&nbsp;intrinsically&nbsp;connected&nbsp;to&nbsp;our&nbsp;place&nbsp;in&nbsp;the&nbsp;world.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Newborns&nbsp;are&nbsp;extremely&nbsp;vulnerable.&nbsp;Being&nbsp;alone&nbsp;or&nbsp;the&nbsp;lack&nbsp;of&nbsp;warmth&nbsp;can&nbsp;bring&nbsp;about&nbsp;deep&nbsp;terror&nbsp;&amp;&nbsp;despair.&nbsp; &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whatever&nbsp;was&nbsp;happening&nbsp;during&nbsp;the&nbsp;time&nbsp;of&nbsp;your&nbsp;conception&nbsp;with&nbsp;your&nbsp;mother&nbsp;and&nbsp;father&nbsp;are&nbsp;the&nbsp;very&nbsp;same&nbsp;patterns&nbsp;and&nbsp;experiences&nbsp;that&nbsp;get&nbsp;repeated&nbsp;through&nbsp;your&nbsp;time&nbsp;in&nbsp;the&nbsp;womb. The&nbsp;same&nbsp;dynamics&nbsp;are&nbsp;likely&nbsp;to&nbsp;show&nbsp;up&nbsp;at&nbsp;your&nbsp;birth,&nbsp;into&nbsp;your&nbsp;childhood&nbsp;and&nbsp;the&nbsp;rest&nbsp;of&nbsp;your&nbsp;life&nbsp;until&nbsp;they&nbsp;get&nbsp;re-patterned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So many times when we are hurting and in pain, we just react before we even know what we\u2019re feeling and needing.&nbsp;&nbsp;For some people it comes out as anger or frustration like a hailstorm, for others, it\u2019s more like a turtle that just recoils and hides and for others, it is more indirect with manipulative tactics as if the other is just supposed to read your mind.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The stories in our minds can run wild based on fears in the past projected onto the future.&nbsp;&nbsp;It can sometimes seem like it\u2019s all happening lightening speed and we feel like we are that little injured infant again.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The faster we can recognize the signs in the body, the faster we can slow things down and step back and ask: &#8220;what is this emotion in my body I am feeling, what am I really afraid of right now, what is really true about what is happening right now and what do I need to feel better?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Behind every trigger is fear based on a thought and a story which comes from an unmet need.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;The challenge becomes on how to get those needs met in healthy ways that don\u2019t end up hurting others and ourselves in the process.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The first step is becoming more compassionate of ourselves when we get triggered, afraid or when we have unmet needs.&nbsp;&nbsp;We begin to practice giving ourselves the compassion for our \u201chumaness\u201d, that we may have never received before.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is nothing wrong with getting triggered or afraid or having needs.&nbsp;&nbsp;We all do and will continue to until we die.&nbsp;&nbsp;We can simply accept it as part of our human experience and that doesn\u2019t make us bad.&nbsp;&nbsp;We can learn to move through them easier and quicker, little by little.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We wouldn\u2019t punish a baby for being afraid or having needs, we would just show loving kindness and meet them &#8211; no judgement, criticizing or shaming necessary.&nbsp;&nbsp;That is what our wounded little infants inside of us need &#8211; to be seen, heard, recognized, felt &#8211; to feel safe and accepted.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Punishing ourselves for being afraid no matter how ridiculous it may seem, never gets us anywhere other than feeling worse about ourselves which makes us even more afraid and so on\u2026..&nbsp;&nbsp;It doesn\u2019t seem very smart but we get ourselves in that trap all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We can respond to the painful, fearful parts in ourselves with love and compassion and provide the encouragement to do hard things in spite of them.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So when you get in a funk and feel like you can\u2019t move forward, or feel out of control, you can remind that little part of you that he\/she is heard and seen and cared and loved for AND that this scared part of you CAN do hard things even when afraid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cut yourself some slack, we are all just trying to get our needs met, even those people who can be very difficult to be around.&nbsp;&nbsp;When you can see others through the same lens of compassion as yourself, it will be much easier to not take their behavior so personally.&nbsp;&nbsp;You can smile and see the wounded little infant that doesn\u2019t know how to deal with their own fears and ask for what they need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My favorite words to myself lately has been:&nbsp;&nbsp;\u201cI forgive myself for being less than perfect.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Try it out, how does it feel to be ok, with being less than perfect?&nbsp;&nbsp;We all get triggered, we all get afraid and we all have basic needs for love, safety, affection, respect, support, freedom etc\u2026&nbsp;&nbsp;Welcome to being human!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We&nbsp;all&nbsp;have&nbsp;a&nbsp;purpose&nbsp;to&nbsp;fulfill&nbsp;,&nbsp;a&nbsp;dharma.&nbsp;Our&nbsp;birth&nbsp;story&nbsp;is&nbsp;part&nbsp;of&nbsp;our&nbsp;hero\u2019s&nbsp;journey&nbsp;towards&nbsp;more&nbsp;authenticity&nbsp;and&nbsp;greater&nbsp;self&nbsp;actualization. The only way is to go through it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We&nbsp;want&nbsp;to&nbsp;meet&nbsp;and&nbsp;befriend&nbsp;our&nbsp;fears&nbsp;and&nbsp;shadows.&nbsp; We need to&nbsp;learn&nbsp;how&nbsp;to&nbsp;negotiate&nbsp;our&nbsp;needs&nbsp;in&nbsp;healthy&nbsp;and&nbsp;assertive&nbsp;ways.&nbsp;I&nbsp;want&nbsp;for&nbsp;you&nbsp;to&nbsp;be&nbsp;able&nbsp;to&nbsp;make&nbsp;peace&nbsp;with&nbsp;the&nbsp;past,&nbsp;develop&nbsp;more&nbsp;inner&nbsp;peace,&nbsp;make&nbsp;meaning&nbsp;of&nbsp;your&nbsp;story&nbsp;and&nbsp;find&nbsp;greater&nbsp;purpose&nbsp;in&nbsp;your&nbsp;life.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>About The Author<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Julia holds a safe and compassionate presence for those who have lost sight of their own path, living a script that isn&#8217;t even theirs and are ready to get to the very core of healing their birth wounds and re-write their own story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Julia is a sacred birth keeper who guides them through their birth story to their divine whole self and helps them build the resources needed to show up more compassionately so they can stand in alignment as their authentic self and fulfil their true soul&#8217;s calling with a sense of peace, power and purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She provides guided hypnotherapy sessions, energy healing, somatic therapy, inner child resourcing and inner wisdom prompting for creating new neurological imprints throughout all timelines.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She works with the birth scripts that have been passed down generationally, carried over from past-lives, written in the pre-life, or inscribed from conception to early childhood and of those who have had a birth that didn\u2019t go as planned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Julia is a certified clinical medical support hypnotherapist, certified in past life, inter-life and neonatal regression, a pre and perinatal practitioner and Hypnobabies childbirth Instructor. She is also the host of the Cosmic Birth Show.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her vision is for every baby to be welcomed into the world with compassion, laying the foundation of secure attachment for a more peaceful world and ending the cycle of wounded people wounding others. And for all those who didn\u2019t get this chance, to have the means to repair and re-write their own birth and early childhood story by meeting what was unmet back then so they can live their true soul&#8217;s calling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p> If you enjoyed this article, you may also be interested in: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/my-big-lesson-from-this-morning-a-snail-teaches-me-re-birth-and-forgiveness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/my-big-lesson-from-this-morning-a-snail-teaches-me-re-birth-and-forgiveness\/ <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How we come into the world matters.&nbsp;&nbsp;How we are born into this world shapes our future reality. 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