{"id":4196,"date":"2017-11-10T09:00:25","date_gmt":"2017-11-10T17:00:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/?p=4196"},"modified":"2017-11-10T08:57:39","modified_gmt":"2017-11-10T16:57:39","slug":"true-beauty","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/true-beauty\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Tips on How to Stop Caring What Other People Think of You"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cCare about people\u2019s approval and you will be their prisoner.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0~Lao Tzu<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all feared \u2014 at some stage in our lives \u2014\u00a0what people think of us.\u00a0 As ludicrous as it is to hand over your personal power in this way, it\u2019s still a reality and something that is dealt with on a daily basis for most.<\/p>\n

Here are 8 tips on how\u00a0to get rid of\u00a0caring about how you appear to others:<\/p>\n

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  1. Don\u2019t Buy Into the Media Version of Happy\/Beauty<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014 The fear of imperfection and\/or of not being accepted is, of course, an a-lister in the battle of caring what others think of you. But answer this:\u00a0 Who gets to be the judge and jury on what is deemed beautiful or hideous \u2014 successful or stupid? A big contributor to our general feelings of insecurity are the tabloids\/magazines\/TV shows and movies.\u00a0Spare a thought about who you give your power over to.\u00a0 These various outlets that dictate what beauty and normal are seem to be pushing fake, in my opinion. \u00a0There are moments where true beauty can shine through these channels, but those flashes are few and far between.\u00a0 To\u00a0indulge in\u00a0a clich\u00e9: True beauty and acceptance is in the eye of the beholder. \u00a0So anyone claiming to know what beauty or normal definitely\u00a0is<\/em>\u00a0needs very close examining if they are not including every member of the human race.\u00a0 Capisce!<\/li>\n
  2. Love Yourself More<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014 We need to look at ourselves and find the beauty inherent within us, and\u00a0not always trying to\u00a0weed out our perceived faults. When you treat yourself with loving kindness and nurture your self-esteem with positive thoughts, you will begin to shift into alignment with your higher self.\u00a0 Because\u00a0Ms. Aguilera\u00a0was right, you are beautiful no matter what they say!\u00a0 When you can out these undesirable contracts or agreements that you have fallen prey to (aka comparing yourself to models or to celebrity status), you\u00a0can begin to repair them. \u00a0We have to discover why we felt the lack and how we are feeling now about the same issue (more about this in later points).\u00a0 Intrinsically, we are all we ever need to be.\u00a0 We make agreements that go against our very sense of self when we buy into all the external hullabaloo.\u00a0 Be happy with the skin you\u2019re in and the unique nature that you possess.<\/li>\n
  3. Reassess\u00a0Your\u00a0Core Beliefs<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014 When we were young we had no inhibitions and sang at the top of our voices, danced our hearts out (whether someone was looking or not) and thought we were princesses and superheroes. Then one day someone came along and made you feel less than what you felt about yourself. You may have paused to take it in \u2013 then you made a crucial decision. Either you agreed with what they said or you didn\u2019t. That is why some of us can still\u00a0dance freely and not be bothered\u00a0whilst others cringe at the thought of dancing in public \u2013 this could be due to an earlier experience of being made to feel like you were \u2018no good\u2019 by someone who was only giving you their perspective at that given moment. We need to extract and acknowledge the agreement and overwrite it with a new, more self-serving belief.<\/li>\n
  4. Be Mindful of Perspectives<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014\u00a0Everyone (yes, even you!) has a preference based on their version of reality.\u00a0When you are confronted,\u00a0and possibly affronted, by one\u00a0persons perspective you must realize that it is but one view\u00a0in a sea of other possible\u00a0outlooks.\u00a0\u00a0There is going to be someone (or many) out there who just happens to love\u00a0your form of expression.\u00a0\u00a0If you happen to go back in time and\u00a0mentally extract\u00a0a scenario where your ego was wounded, you may find that this person could have been someone very dear to you \u2014 someone you trusted deeply.\u00a0 In this case, it can make the hurt twice as potent.\u00a0 However, we must consider that some things are said in the heat of the moment and not really meant by the offender, so we really need to\u00a0dissect\u00a0our reasons for making the agreement in the first place. This is not about playing the blame game, it\u2019s about taking responsibility for how you feel NOW.<\/li>\n
  5. Resign All Hopes of Universal Appeal<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014 You need to know that you can never have universal appeal, I mean let\u2019s get real here.\u00a0 You or your talents may not be one person\u2019s cup of tea but what about all the other people in the world who will resonate with your particular brand of uniqueness?\u00a0 However, ultimately you need to please only you. When you do this then you are immediately accepted and no outside influence can make you feel anything other than what you know yourself to be.\u00a0 Trying to please everyone will only get your knickers in a twist.\u00a0 Please yourself in a way that harms none and you will open up a floodgate of happiness for just being you.\u00a0Rather be loved for who you are and not someone else\u2019s idea of perfection.<\/li>\n
  6. Accept Compliments<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014 Believe it or not,\u00a0this can be a problem for some.\u00a0We sometimes tend to disregard the ones who encourage us, leaving only space in our thoughts for the ones who hurt us. Why is this, I wonder?\u00a0 Everyone has the urge to be liked and accepted for who they are. This is normal. But what we need to redefine is what\u00a0is<\/em>\u00a0normal? Every soul is special and has equally unique attributes, abilities and ways of expressing themselves creatively. So on your road to not caring about what people think of you, don\u2019t forget to truly look at the gift of a compliment when it is given.<\/li>\n
  7. Name\u00a0and Shame that\u00a0Judge<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014 When judgment rears its head (in your head), we must question the one doing the judging (yip \u2014 ourselves). \u00a0\u00a0Tell that judge that you are in love with your differences.\u00a0 Viva la difference!\u00a0 Without freedom of expression this world would be an extraordinary dull globe. \u00a0Without the awesome\u00a0diversity in hair colour, body shapes, talents, voices, tastes, etcetera we would be\u00a0nothing\u00a0more than a herd of\u00a0sheep running around in a field day in and day out \u2013 baa-baa-boring!<\/li>\n
  8. Get Shmoozy with Yourself<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014 Know Thyself!\u00a0 Only then will you begin to discover, on the deepest level, that which you truly are and all of what you have accomplished on your many sojourns. \u00a0Draw on the teeming wealth of talents you have (because everyone has a cache of things they can do and excel at \u2014\u00a0even if you haven\u2019t discovered yours yet). When you do creatively express yourself (read more about how to get creative regardless of who you are HERE), there is nothing anyone can say or do to you that would ever hurt you.\u00a0 You will be resolute as to who you are and nobody can take that away from you \u2014 unless you allow them to.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    When you are truly walking the talk and\u00a0\u2018being the best you can be\u2019 and you are doing this with all your integrity and\u00a0hutspah \u2014 you have nothing to fear.\u00a0 Strive to be and do the best you can in every moment and in every situation \u2014 you do this and there\u2019ll be no room for doubt.<\/p>\n

    Words, gestures, deeds\u00a0or energy that do not fit with your frequency or vibration will not be allowed to penetrate your field of self \u2014 it will be water off a ducks back because you know you are doing the best you can. \u00a0This is the path to becoming the master of your life and your reality.<\/p>\n

    Empowerment comes from fearing no-thing and facing every day with courage and love in your heart.\u00a0 Leave what other people think of you at the door if it does not fit with your vision and don\u2019t take anything personally!<\/p>\n

    About The Author<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Cherie Roe Dirksen\u00a0is a self-empowerment author and\u00a0multi-media artist\u00a0from South Africa. To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books\u00a0and\u00a0brings out\u00a0weekly inspirational blogs\u00a0at her site\u00a0www.cherieroedirksen.com.<\/p>\n

    Her ambition is to help\u00a0you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality.<\/p>\n

    You can\u00a0also follow Cherie on\u00a0Facebook\u00a0(The Art of Empowerment).<\/p>\n

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