{"id":3055,"date":"2017-04-19T09:00:39","date_gmt":"2017-04-19T16:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/?p=3055"},"modified":"2017-12-28T13:23:30","modified_gmt":"2017-12-28T21:23:30","slug":"toxic-relationship-habits-normal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/toxic-relationship-habits-normal\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal"},"content":{"rendered":"
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There\u2019s no class in high school on how to not be a shitty boyfriend or girlfriend. Sure, they teach us the biology of sex, the legality of marriage, and maybe we read a few obscure love stories from the 19th century on how not to be.<\/p>\n

But when it comes down to actually handling the nitty-gritty of relationships, we\u2019re given no pointers\u2026 or worse, we\u2019re given advice columns in women\u2019s magazines.<\/p>\n

Yes, it\u2019s trial-and-error from the get-go. And if you\u2019re like most people, it\u2019s been mostly error.<\/p>\n

But part of the problem is that many unhealthy relationship habits are baked into our culture. We worship romantic love \u2014 you know, that dizzying and irrational romantic love that somehow finds breaking china plates on the wall in a fit of tears somewhat endearing \u2014 and scoff at practicality or unconventional sexualities. Men and women are raised to objectify each other and to objectify their relationships. Thus, our partners are often seen as assets rather than someone to share mutual emotional support.<\/p>\n

A lot of the self-help literature out there isn\u2019t helpful either (no, men and women are not<\/em> from different planets, you over-generalizing prick). And for most of us, mom and dad surely weren\u2019t the best examples either.<\/p>\n

Fortunately, there\u2019s been a lot of psychological research into healthy and happy relationships the past few decades and there are some general principles that keep popping up consistently that most people are unaware of or don\u2019t follow. In fact, some of these principles actually go against<\/em> what is traditionally considered \u201cromantic\u201d or normal in a relationship.<\/p>\n

Below are six of the most common tendencies in relationships that many couples think are healthy and normal, but are actually toxic and destroying everything you hold dear. Get the tissues ready.<\/p>\n

1. The Relationship Scorecard<\/h3>\n

What It Is:<\/strong> The \u201ckeeping score\u201d phenomenon is when someone you\u2019re dating continues to blame you for past mistakes you made in the relationship. If both people in the relationship do this it devolves into what I call \u201cthe relationship scorecard,\u201d where it becomes a battle to see who has screwed up the most over the months or years, and therefore who owes the other one more.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/section>\n

READ MORE HERE<\/a>.<\/p>\n

About the Author<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mark Manson is the NYTimes bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck<\/em>, a blogger and internet entrepreneur.<\/p>\n

Sources:
\nBodymindsoulspirit.com\/6-toxic-relationship-habits\/
\nhttps:\/\/markmanson.net\/<\/p>\n<\/article>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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