{"id":1761,"date":"2016-08-22T14:00:51","date_gmt":"2016-08-22T21:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/?p=1761"},"modified":"2018-06-19T05:21:17","modified_gmt":"2018-06-19T12:21:17","slug":"awakening-people-are-you-a-relationship-empath","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/awakening-people-are-you-a-relationship-empath\/","title":{"rendered":"Awakening People: Are You a Relationship Empath?"},"content":{"rendered":"
\u00a0Judith Orloff of AwakeningPeople.com writes:<\/a><\/strong><\/div>\n
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In my practice and workshops I\u2019m struck by how many sensitive people come to me wanting a long term soul mate. Personally, I can relate to this Yet, despite online dating services, expensive match-makers, friend fix-ups, and blind dates, they still remain single. Or else they\u2019re in relationships but feel constantly fatigued and overwhelmed.<\/p>\n

In my life, I\u2019ve found that a vital missing piece to this puzzle has been discovering I am a relationship empath. Empaths are highly sensitive, intuitive, and caring, but they\u2019re also shock absorbers with an extremely permeable nervous system and hyperactive reflexes. They experience everything, pleasure and pain, sometimes to an extreme. The amazing part of being so sensitive is that empaths are attuned to people (at times even telepathically), to nature. The downside is that empaths are sponges for the world\u2019s angst. Without a membrane between themselves and the world, they unknowingly absorb other people\u2019s stress into their own bodies. Then they become overloaded, anxious or exhausted. This differs from ordinary empathy, say when you sympathize with your partner\u2019s harrowing day at work. Relationship empathy goes much further. You merge with your partner and actually feel his or her joys and fears as if they were your own. Thus, romantic relationships, particularly live-in ones, can be challenging.<\/p>\n

In The Ecstasy of Surrender I go into detail describing what a relationship empath is and also present strategies to cope and not absorb the stress or symptoms of your mate. If you\u2019re highly sensitive and haven\u2019t identified this dynamic, you may unknowingly avoid romantic partnerships because deep down you\u2019re afraid of getting engulfed.<\/p>\n

A part of you wants a soul mate; another part is frightened. This inner push-pull stops you from surrendering to a partner. The closer you are to someone the more intense empathy gets. To feel safe enough to let go in a relationship, it\u2019s crucial for empaths to learn how to set healthy boundaries and assert their needs. Then intimacy becomes possible.<\/p>\n

To surrender to a soul mate, it’s important to discuss your fears of letting go with each other. However, if you\u2019re an empath, you may not know what these are or that you\u2019re even resisting intimacy. Thus you can\u2019t convey your needs or set healthy boundaries. To determine whether you\u2019re a relationship empath take the following quiz from my new book.<\/p>\n

Quiz: Am I a relationship empath?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ask yourself:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Have I been labeled as overly sensitive? Am I afraid of getting engulfed or losing my identity in intimate relationships? Do I prefer taking my own car places so I can leave when I please? Do I get drained by too much togetherness and require time alone to refuel? Do I sometimes prefer sleeping alone? When my partner and I travel do I prefer adjoining rooms? Do I tend to take on by my partner\u2019s stress or physical symptoms? Do I feel overwhelmed by noise, smells, crowds, or excessive talking? If you answer yes to one to three of these questions you\u2019re at least part relationship empath. Responding yes to four to six questions indicates strong empathic tendencies with partners. If you answer yes to seven or more questions you are a certified relationship empath.<\/p>\n

Recognizing that you\u2019re a relationship empath is the first step to removing this obstacle to finding a soul mate. Next, you must redefine the traditional paradigm for coupling so you can find a comfortable way of being together. This means letting go of society\u2019s stereotypes about marriage or relationships, forging a new path for yourself. If you\u2019re an empath or if the ordinary expectations of coupledom don\u2019t work for you, practice the following tips.<\/p>\n

Tip 1. Evaluate a potential mate\u2019s compatibility<\/strong><\/p>\n

As you\u2019re getting to know someone, share that you\u2019re sensitive, that you value having alone time. The right person will understand; the wrong person will put you down for being \u201coverly sensitive.\u201d<\/p>\n

Tip 2. Vibrations Speak Louder Than Words<\/strong><\/p>\n

Notice how you relate to a potential mate\u2019s energy. Ask yourself: Does the person\u2019s words match their energy? Or is something off? If you have any doubts about his or her authenticity, go slow. To avoid getting involved with someone who won\u2019t be good for you, keep tracking the person\u2019s energy with your empathic abilities to find out who they really are.<\/p>\n

Read more HERE.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00a0Judith Orloff of AwakeningPeople.com writes: In my practice and workshops I\u2019m struck by how many sensitive people come to me wanting a long term soul mate. Personally, I can relate to this Yet, despite online dating services, expensive match-makers, friend fix-ups, and blind dates, they still remain single. Or else they\u2019re in relationships but feel…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":1762,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"sfsi_plus_gutenberg_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_show_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_type":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_alignemt":"","sfsi_plus_gutenburg_max_per_row":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[127],"class_list":["post-1761","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-loveandrelationships","tag-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/14"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1761"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1766,"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions\/1766"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1762"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}