Dealing with toxic family members is never an easy task. Since they are family, it’s only a matter of time before you see or hear from them. Just the thought of knowing that a confrontation is on its way is discouraging. It doesn’t have to be daunting, you can’t control how people treat you in life but you can control how you react. Here are four things to keep in mind when dealing with toxic family members.<\/p>\n
Just because the toxic person in question is a family member doesn\u2019t mean you have to shrug and put up with their crap.<\/p>\n
Even if it\u2019s your grandmother doling out the negativity, you have the right to stand up for yourself, whether that means cutting her off or saying, \u201cHey, that is completely uncalled for.\u201d<\/p>\n
A toxic family member can seem a lot like an overgrown playground bully, always looking for a fight.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s because they\u2019re exactly that \u2013 a bully.<\/p>\n
Studies have consistently shown that most bullies have faced bullying themselves. Bullies are also likely to be suffering from depression, low self-esteem and behavioral problems.<\/p>\n
Maybe that will make you feel a bit of sympathy for your toxic family member. Maybe it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n
Either way, it should give you a bit of insight into why exactly your family member is treating you in such a toxic way. It\u2019s not because you deserve that sort of thing. The issue lies entirely with them.<\/p>\n
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Unless your family member is a bona-fide psychopath, they\u2019re probably not skillfully plotting your demise and smiling with glee at the thought of you suffering.<\/p>\n
No, they\u2019re most likely just trying to communicate some sort of pain on their end.<\/p>\n
What does that mean for you?<\/p>\n
Well, it means that with help, patience and the right response, your family member could very well turn into a nice person. Here\u2019s your chance to be the bigger person and display compassion.<\/p>\n
You probably don\u2019t look at your toxic family member and think, \u201cYou know, I\u2019d really love to be like them someday!\u201d<\/p>\n
No, you probably get revolted by the very thought of resembling them even slightly.<\/p>\n
And right there, my friend, you\u2019ve got yourself a benchmark \u2013 a clear picture of something to avoid.<\/p>\n
People spend years trying to find something like that \u2013 years wandering, picking up different habits and dropping them in an effort to find something that clicks.<\/p>\n
But you\u2019ve been blessed with a toxic family member to save you the trouble. Lucky you!<\/p>\n
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