{"id":1354,"date":"2016-07-11T07:24:10","date_gmt":"2016-07-11T14:24:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/?p=1354"},"modified":"2018-05-17T10:59:54","modified_gmt":"2018-05-17T17:59:54","slug":"7-traits-of-people-who-are-great-at-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.youwealthrevolution.com\/blog\/7-traits-of-people-who-are-great-at-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Traits of People Who Are Great at Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

Maintaining a relationship is not an easy task, especially if you have been with the same person for several years. Although many people find it difficult to make things more enjoyable and exciting, some of us know how to make it work. The people who know how to make it work share a few key traits.<\/span><\/p>\n

They love and accept their partners for who they are:<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0Yes, people can change, but not all that much. So if you are constantly trying to motivate your spouse to do something small that they don’t want to do, like exercise more, or quit smoking, or be more assertive about their needs at work, that’s awesome, because that’s the kind of work partners should do for each other. Supporting each other in what we want to do in life is a beautiful thing. But the wholesale changing someone who, say, likes to surf more than she likes to work into a career-focused individual, trying to make a city guy into a country-living fan, or convincing someone who doesn’t want kids that they should have them is dangerous, and you’re bound to be disappointed when \u2014 shocker \u2014 they continue to be themselves. You can help your partner change small things about who they are, but if you aren’t into a major aspect of someone’s personality, you shouldn’t try to create a life with them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t skimp on the snuggling:<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0Like most mammals, human beings have a strong desire to be held and touched by the people closest to us \u2014 regular physical connections are incredibly important, and that’s\u00a0proven by science<\/span><\/a>. According to a Psychology Today essay on the literature about affection and happiness, “There was no connection between the amount of physical affection and amount of conflict [for a couple], but cuddling\/holding, kissing on the lips, and hugging were all associated with how\u00a0easily<\/span><\/em>\u00a0the couple resolves the conflict they do experience.”\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They really listen:<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0Cultivating good listening skills is good for all kinds of relationships, from those with your siblings and parents to those with your friends. But so many people tune their spouses out \u2014 the very people who need and deserve your focused attention. What’s a greater act of love than really taking the time to listen to what someone you love has to say?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t expect their partner to “make them happy”:<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0Only you can make yourself happy \u2014 that is work you must do from the inside. Of course, you can ask for love and support from your partner to achieve goals that will make you happier, like request daily meditation time, or time off for a retreat, or whatever else you need to get to a happier place, but you are the only one ultimately responsible for your happiness.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They are generous:<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0Being giving is a daily way to show love for your partner; that doesn’t have to mean buying presents or expensive jewelry \u2014 it does mean giving them the bigger slice of pie, bringing them a cup of tea, or rubbing their shoulders when they are stressed. Regular generosity shows your partner they are loved, in a small, quiet ways.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They talk it out \u2014 and keep talking:<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0Everyone always says “honest communication is key” \u2014 but few do the work to make that a reality. Having fights or disagreements is natural and healthy. It’s what you do after them that matters. Talk it out (this means you will have to say what you really feel) and listen closely. Keep going. Keep listening. Then keep talking, until whatever it is that made you angry or sad is past, and you are actually talking and listening about the deeper issues that got you fired up to begin with. This is real work; it is hard, but it is incredibly rewarding, bringing you closer to your partner and bringing a greater understanding of yourself and them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They are genuine:<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0It’s easy to start a relationship based on a shiny-happy-perfect version of who you are (who wouldn’t be attracted to that?). But it’s dishonest, and over the long term, you will have to keep up the facade (not healthy, and exhausting!). Or you will eventually show your true colors and have to renegotiate the relationship from the new perspective. Be yourself from the beginning and everyone will know what they are getting into. Yes, some people might not like you, and that’s really OK.<\/span><\/p>\n

Source:\u00a0http:\/\/www.filmsforaction.org\/articles\/7-traits-of-people-who-are-great-at-relationships\/<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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